Pregnancy and birth are taxing to the body, and labor will push your mind to its limits. When you have prepared body and mind in these ways, as well as made plans to be abundantly supported throughout your labor, you give yourself the best possible chance for a healthy birth.
You can make your own luck during birth, but here’s the thing: you do it well before you go into labor, through planning and preparation.
For ten years now my work has been to help mothers prepare for a "great birth.” But a new essay has me questioning whether morality – judgment of what is right or good – belongs in birth at all.
Like everyone else who has access to any form of media, I was taught the story that birth is grueling, painful, and dangerous. While I believed it one level, my parents gave me two particular experiences in childhood that helped me to overcome that programming and have great births.
When you get the context right, it’s possible for birth to take care of itself: it can unfold organically, not mechanically; the more loved and supported we feel during labor, the more physically comfortable and actually safe we are.
What do you want, friend? Goose your intention by taking a risk. Just take a step, one step, towards center stage – or allow yourself to be pushed.
It is a joy to watch these betwixt-and-between fathers uncoil during our first session. The skeptics open their mind. The over-protective soften. The disconnected engage. The couple begins to have a shared experience, rather than a his-and-hers.
What are you drawn to that you resist because you believe it distracts you from More Important Things or because you were socialized to believe that adults must justify anything that feels like play?
And then I hear, “Apprivoise-moi.” It's the fox from the book telling the Little Prince that when one tames another, the two become “unique in the world” to one another. Like my idea and me.
Have you ever dismissed someone’s emotions because you didn’t want them to feel that way? Have you ever felt guilty that your loved one was unhappy? Have you ever said yes when you meant no because you wanted someone to like you?